WOW.
A little self-righteous, don’t you think? How can you give any kind of a discourse on this subject without even mentioning the disparity between the number of western men to chinese women versus western women to chinese men?

The phenomena known as “Yellow Fever” does exist as a meme among foreign men in China who themselves are in relationships with Chinese women, and it has NOTHING to do with ethnicity and EVERYTHING to do with sexism. As a white male who has been living in China for 2 years now I can assure you its all too real, and more often than not propagated by overly zealous foreigners who have found their bliss with a Chinese/”Asian” woman. On more than one occasion within five minutes of meeting a foreigner in a relationship with a Chinese I have been asked the EXTREMELY awkward question – worded the EXACT same way, spoken in the EXACT same tone; “Ya got a Chinese girlfriend?” to which I respond “Uhh…no” – while thinking, of course “Is that really any of your goddamn business?”, “Is this the kind of question you would ask someone under normal circumstances back in your home country?” “If I were a woman would you be asking me right off the bat if I have a Chinese boyfriend or husband?”. Being a generally polite person and not much of an agitator I haven’t actually posed these questions thus far, but I am fairly certain I can guess the response.

Perhaps with most Asian cultures having an overly involved parental role in the relationships of their children causes the women in that culture to hyper-stereotype as a means of justification for their preference, and then that just caries over into a personal bias.

Whatever the cause, it’s pretty retarded.

I’m not an expert of any sort, just an Asian American guy living in New York who’s had his share of experiences with yellow fever. I must respectfully disagree with Ryan, as I do feel that yellow fever exists, in some form or another. To be honest, my complaint is more with a certain type of Asian woman, rather than white men.

With that being said, I’m not saying that all relationships between white men and Asian women are wrong or messed up in some way. Love is love, as Ryan put it, and it is something that seems to transcend matters of race and religion. There are plenty of loving white male-Asian female relationships that I have seen, and I wish them well.

Still, I must admit that I have seen yellow fever at work, and perhaps white fever (for lack of a better term). I do know quite a few white men who buy too heavily into the stereotypical notion of submissive, exotic, and hypersexual Asian women—and thus make that their primary reason for dating Asian women. Additionally, I also know very many Asian women who, for various reasons, refuse to date “patriarchal”, chauvinistic, and overbearing Asian men, and instead prefer to only date men of a certain ethnicity.

Now these are all personal preferences, of course, but it becomes my problem when these people (particularly the Asian women mentioned before) try to force their mindsets onto me. I’ve had Asian women tell me to my face that they would never date me, because they find Asian men unattractive, unreasonable, and hypermasculine (or hyperfeminine). It is pretty disappointing, and though I’d like to say that I dont really care about others’ opinions, it does grate on my nerves after a certain point. More to the point, it is as if these Asian women are blaming me for their tastes—simply because I am Asian. Obviously, they are wasting their time, because, I am proud of my race, culture, and heritage, and even if it were possible, I would never change my ethnicity.

I suppose we could say that these Asian women are stupid, that they are misinformed, that they are just a small segment of Asian Americans and do not represent the whole. But I have found in my experience that this sort of women is way more common than rational, balanced Asian American women.
But why? Why are there so many? Unfortunately, I feel that this comment is getting too big, and getting way out of hand, so I guess I’ll end it here. If everyone else is interested in hearing the rest of my thoughts, then I’ll write them some other time.

Please understand that I’m trying to make a point based on my experience, and that I am not out to step all over everyone else. I apologize if I have stretched anyone’s patience, or if I have gone way off topic.

Thanks,
Will

black, latino, middle eastern …etc…non asian men/chinese are still put into categories. Look at how western media plays race card, so women there being drawn to black, etc are still means of selling the ” western” dream and ideals

there is a component to race in relationships whether you like it or not. Sexual relationship isn’t immune to race. fact is asian women have been sexualized so much in western culture its not a surprise your pairing exist. in fact some say it has historical reflection due to colonizations of asia

so if say China decides to colonize USA or other western-white nations, will white guys like you like this?

Even the study states the distaste of Blacks and Latinos to the Chinese women. Yet in still, I still see so many women drawn to Black men, how can this be?

People are people and individuals are individuals, but lets leave the hateful comments behind.