Love, with Chinese characteristics (a conversation)

"You need to understand," Walter said, lighting a cigarette. "Chinese love is real love."

"And American love isn't?" Nick said.

"Western love," Walter said, "is not real love. Not in the Chinese sense. It's not. Their love is deeper, truer."

"Yeah," Nick said, "I can see what you mean."

He could too. One night at dinner he had casually remarked that he had worn holes in a pair of socks. The next day his g…

The 7 Year Laowai: Part 8 – The Graveyard of all Ambition

Be sure to start at the beginning with "The 7-Year Laowai: Part 1 – Introduction", or see all posts in the series here.

After Tom, that was it for me. I decided not to "renew the contract". I applied for math-teaching jobs at international schools in many different cities, but come September, I was across Wuhan. In another university.

Teaching oral English.

I never cut down on my drinking. In this place, h…

The 7 Year Laowai: Part 7 – Safety

Be sure to start at the beginning with "The 7-Year Laowai: Part 1 – Introduction", or see all posts in the series here.

I had an English class once where this girl interrupted me to ask what I thought of Japan, and without waiting for an answer, proceeded to tell me that Japan had killed many Chinese people, that they hated China, they were jealous of China. Then she went into Korea. Korea "stole our culture". You…

What to do when your Chinese ex-wife runs away with your child?

I've just received a rather disturbing e-mail from a fellow expat here in China. As I really don't have any experience, or know anything about the laws or official steps that can be taken, I figured I'd post it on here in hopes that our wonderful readers might have some advice to give.

The e-mail reads:
Hello. I wonder if you could help me. I am an American in China and my Chinese ex-wife and her boyfriend have …

Laowai Interview: Richard Burger of The Peking Duck

For this the next chapter in Lost Laowai's series of posts on prolific bloggers in the English-language China blogsphere I go right to the source, as there are few more seminal English-language China blogs than the Peking Duck.

Authored by Beijing-based PR man Richard Burger, the Peking Duck is one of, if not the, oldest blogs featuring a laowai writing about China. The blog offers some of the most well-written an…

Laowai Interview: David Wolf of Silicon Hutong

We continue our series of posts interviewing some of the more prolific laowai bloggers with a discussion with David Wolf.

David is President and CEO of Wolf Group Asia, but is most well-known to those of us in the 'sphere as author of Silicon Hutong, a blog that insightfully covers China's technology and IT sectors.

Lost Laowai: By expat standards, you've been "in country" a very long time -- since the mid-90s.…

You buying the Angry Expat Ideology?

© RickenbackerI was standing on the street corner the other day waiting for a taxi beside a middle-aged foreigner doing the same. This isn't uncommon, I live in a rather laowai-saturated area of Suzhou. The corner also works as an impromptu parking spot for people looking to dash over to the bakery, or pick up a bit of food from the long line of restaurants.

As we were waiting, in our awkward expat silence, a…

When is one an old China Hand?

I'm nearing my five-year mark of being in China. I don't view that as a long time but people I meet increasingly are. It surprises me because I always view "Old China Hands" - the term that's developed for foreigners that have been here a long time. I used to see the term as something that was meant for people who were at least 10 years into their stay here, people who arrived before Starbucks had its claws into almo…