American man fighting for return of his son after wife abducts child to China

Almost a year ago Brian Meid said goodbye to his 4-year-old son, Alex, as the boy accompanied his mother for a 45-day trip to China to visit her family. They have yet to return.

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After a difficult divorce, Meid, a 34-year-old IT worker in Utah and former US Marine, and his wife Yu Na reached agreeable terms which included joint custody of Alex. Meid had fears that Yu Na might try to take Alex away, but his wife was insistent that she be allowed to travel to China with her son. As a compromise to settle the divorce, Yu Na was made to sign a notarized statement saying that Alex was a US citizen and that he was to be raised in Utah. It also required that she purchase a round-trip ticket, put up the title of her car as collateral and required Alex only obtain a temporary Chinese visa. In the end, none of that mattered.

Yu Na and Alex are now living with her parents in Dalian, Liaoning. Meid is doing everything in his power to get his son back, but because China is not a party to the Hague Abduction Convention, Chinese officials have no obligation to recognize foreign custody orders or assist in international child abductions.

“Unfortunately, for some of the non-Hague countries, there may be some challenges and difficulties,” Maureen Head, a supervisor in the missing children division of the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children, tells Yahoo Parenting. One problem, she says, is that those countries, including China, won’t recognize U.S. custody orders. Other challenges: Filing international abduction charges against Yu Na with the Justice Department could potentially force her into hiding, Meid says he was advised, while enforcement would be difficult since there is no extradition treaty between the U.S. and China. But all cases vary wildly, she says, and even when they seem hopeless, things can turn on a dime.

“I’ve seen situations in which it seemed nothing can be done, but things change day to day,” she says. “The parent may want to negotiate, the parent may want to come back, the parent may want to travel.” [source]

In addition to the cost of the divorce, the expenses of fighting for his son’s return have crippled him financially. To help find the means to continue the fight he has turned to crowdfunding, with a campaign on Crowd Rise and GoFundMe.

Meid is not alone in the troubles he’s facing. While there are indications that the rate of international child abductions is falling, just this past March a 32-year-old woman from Tianjin was convicted in the US on charges of international parental kidnapping after she unlawfully boarded an airplane with her 4-year-old son. Fortunately in that case, the father learned of his estranged wife’s plans before the plane landed, and the airline ordered the flight to return to the US, where the woman was arrested.

For more information about international parental child abduction, visit here.

Discussion

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  1. I wonder about the legal implications in the US of the father possibly going to China and re-abducting his son.

  2. I have the deepest sympathy for Brian and his plight. But one thing that’s not covered very deeply in the article is that he will not move to China to be close to his child. Legal/divorce agreements aside, I think the wife should have at least as much right for that to be on the table as he has for keeping her in the US (under threat of a distant relationship with the child). Personally, I think it would be an extremely selfish move on the wife’s part, as a better quality of life for her child would be sacrificed for her own (legitimate) desires to live close to family/her culture. But it’s not a point without some merit IMO.

    @Ben — I’d be more worried about the legal implications in China. There’s an excellent chance he’d not get out of China with the kid, and ending up in a jail awaiting trial then being kicked out of the country and forbidden to return would all-around be much much worse. Dude’s an ex-Marine, but still.

    • Very clearly a different set of people Tony. Though Nan-Hui Jo’s story does bring up very important points, there’s no indication that anything like that is involved in Brian Meid’s case.

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